Retailers spend countless hours and resources training frontline teams to handle difficult customers.
But who's addressing the increasingly common phenomenon of employees who've become emotionally armored against customers altogether?
Even more concerning: when did it become acceptable for our frontline to view customers as adversaries rather than the very reason we exist?
Picture this: It's 8 PM on a rainy night at Crossgates Mall. A female customer has just spent over $1,000 on Christmas gifts at REI, only to learn at checkout – after signing up for a paid membership – that there are no bags available. The store's commitment to sustainability through a bagless policy is admirable, but what unfolded next reveals a deeper crisis in retail culture.
"You know, 20 items that I purchased. She's throwing them on the counter and asked me to sign up for a paid membership, which I did. Then she said well, we don't have any bags. I said what do you mean you don't have any bags it's pouring rain out? I'm parked like 500 miles away. You should've told me that when I came in." Nope, no bags.
I asked, 'Would you have something I could purchase?' Yes, $40." I said I wanted my membership back, and I had to go out into the rain into my car at night, in the dark and get bags to go back in to pack my own stuff, like at the grocery store. I said, "For 1000 bucks you guys really should've given me a bag I won't be back."
Rather than acknowledging the customer's predicament, the customer noted, "They were so busy virtue signaling and selling me on how great they were, they didn't see me at all." The irony? While skipping bags in the name of sustainability, they're simultaneously selling lines of clothing with questionable environmental impacts.
It raises a crucial question: What hill are retailers choosing to die on?
I would suggest, you never want it to be the last interaction of your brand at the register.
This isn't a one-off situation. A long-time member shared on LinkedIn recently he spent nearly $3,000 on a new bicycle during a Black Friday special. After the bike mechanic completed the setup, they handed over the bike, manual, and extra items. When the customer asked for a bag for the accessories, they were offered a reusable bag – for a price. After spending thousands, the customer was left feeling nickeled and dimed over a basic service necessity.
"It's the new Seattle mentality," notes one member since 1988. "They've lost their soul. They can't even fold anything anymore - they just wad up your apparel and stare at you as they ask if you want to buy a bag."
Think about the psychology of a purchase. The customer has:
Then, at the very moment they should feel validated in their choices, we introduce friction:
Each of these moments isn't just an inconvenience – it's a betrayal of the customer's trust at the most vulnerable point in their journey.
They've already given you their money.
They should be riding high on the dopamine of a satisfying purchase. Instead, they're encountering stress, frustration, and in the case at REI, humiliation.
Consider how these final moments impact the entire customer journey:
"Statistics stem from individual situations counted up for data," one retail professional noted on my original post. But these aren't just statistics – they're stories being told about your brand. And as we've seen, they're being told with increasing frequency and frustration.
The fixes don't require complex corporate initiatives. Here are my customer service tips:
Treat the Final Touchpoint as Sacred:
Train staff to see checkout as a ceremony, not a transaction
Ensure premium merchandise is folded and handled with respect
Empower staff to solve last-minute challenges
Anticipate and Prevent Final Friction:
Communicate policies before checkout
Train delivery personnel in customer service
Ensure packaging respects the product's value
Be Courteous
Offer to help carry purchases to cars
Provide complimentary bags for large purchases
Allow staff to make judgment calls that enhance the final experience
The Great Retail Disconnect
The most telling sign of trouble? When store employees report being "tired of every third customer throwing a tantrum" about the bag policy.
Instead of seeing this as a warning sign that their policy implementation needs work, it's become an us-versus-them mentality.
When retail staff become policy defenders rather than experience creators, we've not just lost a sale – we've lost our way. As one store manager puts it, "A customer should never be able to leave your store upset. Every retailer should operate with the mindset that the customer should always be at the center of everything you think, say and do."
The real question isn't about bags or sustainability or even policies. It's about understanding that the final touchpoint is sacred ground.
It's the moment where all your brand promises, customer service training, and company values face their ultimate test.
Are you running a retail brand that honors these moments, or have you become so focused on processes that you've forgotten the power of a positive final impression?
REI, those who understand your brand will adapt to your policies. But what about the other two-thirds of people who don't know your brand and went out of their way to discover it? They can become your very worst marketing nightmare.
Because at the end of the day, your customers won't remember your mission statement or your sustainability initiatives. They'll remember how you made them feel in their final moments with your brand.
And that feeling will determine whether they ever give you another beginning.